Step Up Broken Heart!

Lately, I received quite a bit of approach about “broken heart”. From men

Yeap! Who said men can’t have broken heart? It seems most of the relationship advises are “protecting” women, I have never seen a good “protection” for men.

Most of the “problems” were mainly about: “why is this happening to me, again?”, “why she broke up with me?”, “I think she is cheating on me!”, “what is the reasons she left me?”, “she changed after marriage”, “she’s not what I thought she used to be”, “I thought she’s the one”…. etc etc…

But, seriously my dear, you gotta stop all these mental chatters in your head, if you really want to find out the “why”, “what”, and “how”.

Christmas is approaching. Definitely it does not feel good when your family and relatives are asking you, “so, when are you getting married?”, “how’s xxx, why isn’t she here with you?”…

So, I decided to write this post, and give it to you men as an early Christmas present — and of course for my beloved women out there too! Hey, I’m a woman, I still “protect” my sistas

Perhaps you could use the tips given to finally get (or get back) the love of your life before Christmas! Or, perhaps, you can finally clear up your head and go with the bran-new-cool-VERY-available-chap celebration. Either way, I can guarantee you a fantastico Christmas this year!

In this post, I’m gonna show you the 3 BIG answers to: “Why”, “What”, and “How”.

If you’re not in “broken heart” categories, in or out of a relationship; this article can be an energy-boost to your heart! Read on baby!

What Do You Really Want?

Honestly, I guess you have heard about this question million of times, and I bet, you are a bit sick of it

Congratulation, if you’re a bit sick of it — cause you seriously really don’t now what you want!

I’m going to be straight to your face a little, and if you are skin-deep-emotion-swinger, I advise you to leave this post now, and find others that only gives you surfacing advises just to soothe your ego.

Still here?

Great! You deserve a kiss :* — and a real woman (a real man for you gal)

If you really willing to listen to your heart, you will know some time during your relationship, your heart has been trying to tell you that “This is not the one for you, knock knock! Wake Up!”

We are not going to find out what or why she is doing this to you, we are going to talk about YOU!

When you are honest to yourself, admit the truth, and willing to find out what you really want, things around you will start to change.

The fact that we keep on attracting the same kind of situations or dramas (just with different co-star), is that we are not willing to work on ourselves — inside ourselves.

It is always easier to point the finger outward — but forgetting when you point ONE finger outward, you have THREE fingers pointing back at you! (try pointing out and you’ll see)

See it?!

Guuuuuud!

Now, take a piece of paper out and a pen. Write down EVERY single quality that you are seeking on your partner. Be as detail as possible, and true to yourself.

If you want to marry a cash machine, then write it. If you just want to have a sex-partner, nothing more, then write it. If you want to have a serious relationship, and something more, then write it!

If you want her to still look like Angelina Jolie after giving birth to 3 kids, kiss you passionately when you come home from work, give you great massage PLUS great sex, forever full of fun exciting energy and independent — Just. Write. Them. Down!

When you have done writing, let’s move on to the next step.

Be One Yourself

The person that you attract, is always a vibrational match to who you are, and what you’re thinking behind your head.

How can you ask for a fun and exciting girl, when all you know is just work work work? Want her to look like Angelina Jolie, while you rode yourself into a big beer bin? Want her to be honest and sincere, while you are cheating on your side. You might say you have never cheated on her, but cheating in business is also a cheat.

When you put yourself into action by being the person that you said you want, you will also dig out what kind of false belief systems you have inside yourself.

Your action will always be a match to your belief system.

When you put yourself into action by doing things that don’t match to your believe system, you will receive so-called “bad situation”.

For example, if you are not the marriage type, don’t believe that all women just want to get married. There are lotsa lotsa women out there have the same mind set as you.

If you “think” you just want a sex-partner, nothing more, and you found yourself feeling “hurt” after some time. Then you realize that you “actually” believe by having sex means something more.

A very typical aspect I found out from all the problems is, believing marriage is going into grave, if not that serious would be in jail.

In one hand, they want to get married. But on the other, they secretly belief marriage is going to hell.

So, guess what happen?

Bingo! They will act as if they are going to hell. When the drama happens and repetitive situations happen again and again, they said “see I told you, marriage is really going to hell”, “women turn into witches after getting married”.

Who put them into hell? Yes, they did themselves.

So, now you found out what you really want is clashing with your belief system. What can you do?

Change Your Belief System

I let you decide which brings better meaning and fulfillment into your life — keeping your false belief system, and continue with your toxic-repetitive situations (and please don’t come running to me crying again ); or change it with one that really gives you a happy life, which you truly want.

Changing belief systems is not some voodoo ritual, nor asking you to climb mount Everest.

It is practically simply saying, “I know what I want, I will put my right action to get it done”.

From the list of “what you want”, that would be your new belief system.

Let’s go back to the sex (yes, I love sex, don’t you?). If you just want a sex-partner, then having sex and enjoying sex is not “wrong”, and you must be able to accept your sex-partner to have another sex-partner.

It is as it is – nothing more.

If you can’t stand your sex-partner to have another sex-partner, then you know deep down inside you, you want something else.

Now about the marriage. If you still secretly think woman will turn into a witch after married, congratulation, you will get what you belief.

And don’t come running to me crying, again! — I’ll give you a straight punch in your face

Examine your actions during the relationship, are you acting like she is your only princess in the world? Or are you acting like now I have gotten her, and she is worthless, she will grow fat, ugly, grumpy?

Ask yourself — What. Is. In. Your. Mind.

Be honest.

You will see what you believe actually comes from the dud surrounding that you were in… errr, may be when you were still peeing in your pants?

All these beliefs that you got, were injected into you “unconsciously” from other relationship-malfunction people around you.

How great is it to take other malfunction-beliefs as yours? … I leave the answer to you.

How about trying this — Woman will turn into a lovely gorgeous princess after getting married.

How does that resonate with your heart when you read that line? Read it again Out Loud!

Do you feel it as true?

If not, congratulation again, you will get what you feel is true! <-- (evil grin)

Na... I'm just pulling your leg.

That just means, you have just found your dud belief. If you are able to just admit you have one, you're already on a speedy path to change your situation.

That is it dude (and ma sistas that are reading this).

I have just given you proven methods as present. It is up to you to take action or sit around “enjoying” your old-dud self.

No one can change your situation for you.

Only You Can.

I want to hear your success story before Christmas! Tell me at the comment box below how the above methods had inspired you, what area are you going to change, what have you changed, and most importantly I want to see your new-confident-self.

Have a great Christmas this year!

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